Kemarin sesi curhat malam saya dengan Nathan Adianta (better known as “NETE!”) sedikit membahas salah satu topik favorit saya: karakter manusia…ya khususnya karakter kami (saya melankolis+plegmatis dia sanguinis+melankolis…ya kan te?)

Ya jadinya pagi ini bukannya belajar malah googling topik itu deh…terutama ya melankolis…tulisan berikut diambil dari sini. Nggak begitu ngerti sih yang sebenernya yang bener gimana…cuma kalo dibaca2 rada mirip sama saya…
Jadi pengen aja komentarin (tulisan biru berarti komentar saya)…hehe…(ada yang diedit2 dikit juga kalo kyknya ga penting)

You are a “nervous” Melancholic. Melancholics are characterized by the element of Earth, the season of Autumn, middle-aged adulthood, the colors black and blue, Saturn, and the characteristics of “Cold” and “Dry.” Animals used to symbolize the Melancholic include the pig, cat, and owl.

If you were living in the Age of Faith, perfect career choices for you would be contemplative religious, theologian, artist, or writer. weits nggak ada engineering nih? wah berarti rada salah jurusan…hahaha…

The Melancholic:

· Is self-conscious, easily embarrassed, timid, bashful. ehm bener banget

· Avoids talking before a group; when obliged to he finds it difficult. idem. kadang masalah banget yg ini.

· Prefers to work and play alone. Good in details; careful. kalimat pertama dibenarkan. yg kedua gak selalu

· Is deliberative; slow in making decisions; perhaps overcautious even in minor matters. yep that’s right

· Is lacking in self-confidence and initiative; compliant and yielding.

· Tends to detachment from environment; reserved and distant except to intimate friends. wah bener! mknya concern banget soal pilih temen deket.

· Tends to depression; frequently moody or gloomy; very sensitive; easily hurt. AH. JELAS INI

· Does not form acquaintances readily; prefers narrow range of friends; tends to exclude others.

· Worries over possible misfortune; crosses bridges before coming to them.

· Is secretive; seclusive; shut in; not inclined to speak unless spoken to. yap. cuma sering ngomong di comfort zone

· Is slow in movement; deliberative or perhaps indecisive; moods frequent and constant. kalo slow in movement ga juga sih

· Is often represents himself at a disadvantage; modest and unassuming. ehm. betul.

The melancholic person is but feebly excited by whatever acts upon him. The reaction is weak, but this feeble impression remains for a long time and by subsequent similar impressions grows stronger and at last excites the mind so vehemently that it is difficult to eradicate it.

Such impression may be compared to a post, which by repeated strokes is driven deeper and deeper into the ground, so that at last it is hardly possible to pull it out again. This propensity of the melancholic needs special attention. It serves as a key to solve the many riddles in his behavior.

FUNDAMENTAL DISPOSITION OF THE MELANCHOLIC

1. Inclination to reflection. hmm…ya memang cukup suka merenung…

2. Love of retirement bukan males kok. cuma ga suka di tempat rame. agak solitare gitu.

3. Serious conception of life. At the core of his heart there is always a certain sadness, ‘a weeping of the heart,’ not because the melancholic is sick or morbid, as many claim, but because he is permeated with a strong longing for an ultimate good (God) and eternity, and feels continually hampered by earthly and temporal affairs and impeded in his cravings. The melancholic is a stranger here below and feels homesick for God and eternity.

4. Inclination to passivity.

PECULIARITIES OF THE MELANCHOLIC

1. He is reserved. = butuh waktu untuk menjalin hubungan teman. orang mungkin bilang nggak bagus ya…tapi menurut saya ini justru diperlukan. sekarang ada brapa sih orang baik? yang nggak nyebelin? yang nggak akan makan temen? seorang melankolis nggak akan cepet merasa nyaman sama semua orang, lebih hati2 dalam pilih temen yg dipercaya.
Confession is a great burden to the melancholic AH BETUL SEKALI

2. The melancholic is irresolute. btul2. suka nggak bisa memutuskan. gue banget. Sekarang ya masih dalam tahap belajar untuk mengurangi karakteristik yang itu.

3. The melancholic is despondent and without courage. ehm. kalo buat saya, saya bisa berani, kalo ada orang di sekitar saya yang lebih takut. hahaha.

4. The melancholic is slow and awkward

o He is slow in his thinking.

o He is slow in his speech

5. The pride of the melancholic has its very peculiar side. He does not seek honor or recognition; on the contrary, he is loathe to appear in public and to be praised. But he is very much afraid of disgrace and humiliation. ah! saya benci sekali sama karakter yang ini. pengecut banget lah. dan susah banget ilangnya…

BRIGHT SIDE OF THE MELANCHOLIC TEMPERAMENT

1. The melancholic practices with ease and joy interior prayer. His serious view of life, his love of solitude, and his inclination to reflection are a great help to him in acquiring the interior life of prayer. This temperament causes difficulties at prayer, since the melancholic person easily loses courage in trials and sufferings and consequently lacks confidence in God, in his prayers, and can be very much distracted by pusillanimous and sad thoughts. kalimat terakhir bener banget tuh. sering banget terganggu saat berdoa. apalagi kalo lingkungan sekitar lagi berisik. kalo tenang aja masih sering terganggu sama pikiran sendiri…

2. In communication with God the melancholic finds a deep and indescribable peace. belom pernah sampe segitunya sih kayaknya. semoga kelak bisa menemukan damai itu. amin

3. The melancholic is often a great benefactor to his fellow men. He has great sympathy with his fellow men and a keen desire to help them. If the confidence in God supports the melancholic and encourages him to action, he is willing to make great sacrifices for his neighbor and is strong and unshakable in the battle for ideals. oh ternyata memang orang melankolis gabisa dibantah kalo udah yakin akan sesuatu. makanya kalo ada yang membuatnya ragu akan keyakinannya, bakal dipikirin sampe lamaaaaaaaa….

DARK SIDE OF THE MELANCHOLIC TEMPERAMENT

1. The melancholic by committing sin falls into the most terrible distress of mind, because in the depth of his heart he is, more than those of other temperaments, filled with a longing desire for God, with a keen perception of the malice and consequences of sin. menurut lanjutannya, ini juga karena melankolis susah untuk confess. wah sampe segitunya yah? no comment deh…

2. A melancholic person who has no confidence in God and love for the Cross falls into great despondency, inactivity, and even into despair. waduh! ya emang saya selalu mencari kepastian & pegangan hidup sih…tapi ya sekali lagi, nggak tahu kalo sampe segitunya…

3. becomes a real burden to his fellow men.

o He easily loses confidence in his fellow men

o He is vehemently exasperated and provoked by disorder or injustice ah ya bener! ya ampun…inget 6 tahun lalu bener2 kesel sama world cup 2002 pas korea diuntungkan wasit gitu *personal view. mo orang bilang apa, saya tetep bilang itu kecurangan.* Sensi sama negaranya sampe sekarang loh. gila ya?

o He can hardly forgive offences. The first offense he ignores quite easily. But renewed offenses penetrate deeply into the soul and can hardly be forgotten. Strong aversion easily takes root in his heart against persons from whom he has suffered, or in whom he finds this or that fault. This aversion becomes so strong that he can hardly see these persons without new excitement, that he does not want to speak to them and is exasperated by the very thought of them. Usually this aversion is abandoned only after the melancholic is separated from persons who incurred his displeasure and at times only after months or even years. that’s really true for me. susah banget untuk memaafkan. tantangan terbesar saya sebagai seorang Kristen.

o He is very suspicious. He rarely trusts people and is always afraid that others have a grudge against him.

o He sees everything from the dark side. yeap. pesimis banget.

o He finds peculiar difficulties in correcting people. As said above he is vehemently excited at the slightest disorder or injustice and feels obliged to correct such disorders, but at the same time he has very little skill or courage in making corrections. He deliberates long on how to express the correction; but when he is about to make it, the words fail him, or he goes about it so carefully, so tenderly and reluctantly that it can hardly be called a correction. OH MAN. ini bener banget. pengen banget untuk memperbaiki, tapi nggak punya keberanian.